Category: 2016

When Cindy Crawford told her Dad that she wanted to become a model, he protested, saying that modeling was just a nice word for prostitution. I wonder what he was saying after witnessing her successful movie career?

His reaction is no different from the millions of males throughout the ages who sought control over females by threatening their “honor.” It is still how most males and cultures operate, even in many sectors of this “Land of the Free and Home of the Brave!”

Therefore, the question becomes: what is a good career future for women, and in pursuing that is Anything and Everything OK?

Not quite, since it is hard for me to believe, as an example, that many women were celebrating the fact that our military has recently decided to have females serving in all branches of combat anywhere, everywhere! Is this an achievement, a milestone that we should be getting excited about, or a very sad depiction of how women, rather than being the torch-bearers for negotiations and peace, are being manipulated into that same violent, belligerent combative role; that we have been thrown into the arena of that same ferocious behavior that many of us have been ranting and raving against?

Are those celebrating not aware that promoting violence as a method of domineering has a surreptitious way of creeping in from the warring battle zones and mindsets into all aspects of society, including our homes and bedrooms? Don’t we have enough proof of that yet? So, Why do we?

I could not believe it, either, when this country crowned a Military Woman as Miss USA 2016! Uniting Beauty and Violence? What message is this sending to our impressionable young men and women? It is paradoxical, to say the least! It is also sinister, for we are only glorifying war and violence! Why do we?

Recently, and amongst all our misrepresentations of the Middle East and Iraq War, the corrupt and sensationalist journalists of our mainstream media were getting erections as they were reporting about the Yazidi Warrior Women; picturing them with their guns and ammunition, smiles, cigarettes, covered heads and flowing robes! How in hell can it be exciting to witness a woman on a violent battlefield Killing anyone??? What does it prove about humanity? What does it contribute to women’s liberation and equality, or, to the war on ISIS, for that matter!? It’s just pathetic that these are portrayed as values that we, women, should celebrate!

This is misguided feminism. It is feminism gone awry! It is not Equality. It is not Freedom of Choice. In fact, it is further proof of how women, under the guise of becoming equal, are being herded into upholding, supporting and being part of a male legacy of war-mongering and aggression that has devastated humanity, and is still doing so.

There are 200+ sovereign states on this planet. There are only about 22 of them that are headed by women, and only about 6 or 7 of those which belong to nations that hold sway at world forums. This is dismal! Moreover, in looking back over the female political leaders our world has experienced, I find that most of them immediately assumed all the male attributes of war-mongering, obstinacy, greed, manipulation and, very quickly, became as corrupt as most male world political leaders throughout time. None were Peace Makers! How do we continue to accept this?

On the one hand we are luring women – and young girls – into putting on ultra-high stiletto heels that make them look ridiculous and walk funny; selling them clothes that make them look more like sluts instead of elegant; sending them the message that diamonds, glitz and landing a rich man are what they should be aiming for; and, on the other hand, telling them that by being violent combatants they would have attained equality. How does any of this make sense? Why? Why do we?

Yes, we women in this century do have choices, but our choices require reason and good judgment, mainly because our gender roles in this era are as confused as our world, a world that is going through a tremendously turbulent time. The Information Age that began about forty years ago is still in its embryonic stage, and none of our world politicians, leaders, or ordinary humans are yet fully aware of how to cope with and manage it. It will take decades yet! In the meantime, anywhere you look you are bound to find humongous dysfunction. This dysfunction spans every establishment and institution and ranges from our bedrooms to our corporate board rooms.

Truth, Honesty, Integrity, Transparency, Choice, Equality, Freedom and so many other attributes and values have been manipulated so often and so well; we have turned everything upside down and muddied the waters so much that people don’t know anymore what is the Truth and what are blatant Lies parading as Truth; what exactly does it mean to have Equality and Choice; what are the female attributes than can balance and enhance the male attributes; and, whether in order to become Equal we should assume those same aggressive behaviors of dominance, combat and violence.

During this instability, we women should rather actively and avidly resume our age-old role of being the nurturers, the peace-makers, the negotiators, the compromisers and refuse to give in to the lure and allure of being militarized and corrupted by a political, economic and social System that has failed us, and failed humanity in a miserable way. Our “gentle touch” is more needed than ever in a world that seems to be heading towards the abyss!

Whereas we should not allow threats to our “honor” to be a reason for manipulating us and preventing us from following our aspirations, we should not, by that same token, sacrifice our wisdom and femininity by acquiring macho behaviors and making career choices that we have been chastising males for.

And again I say: the rot is at the top, and it seeps down from there to engulf everyone and everything. Unless that is rooted out, nothing will change and the turmoil in our world will continue with more polarization, extremism, fanaticism and fascism until, perhaps, we annihilate ourselves and this planet. Why? Why do we?

And no, I am not exaggerating!

So, there I was visiting in Beirut after being away for more years than I would ever have thought, walking around and re-familiarizing myself with all the landmarks of my memories, relishing every sight, smell and sound, when I found myself at the main gate of the American University of Beirut. Across the street from that gate-full of nostalgia once was Faisal’s Restaurant. Aside from its terrific managers and wait staff who knew every one of us by name; and aside from the numerous delicious meals that I had indulged in there, especially when I was pregnant; it was also the haunt of academicians, intellectuals and activists whose conversations still resonate from the walls that had since become a McDonald’s!!! It was a slap in my face! It was a scar on that street! It was a blister that festered and oozed, its poison marring that landscape forever!

And, yes, I am convinced that the placement of a McDonald’s right in that same spot where Arab nationalism, patriotism and anti-colonialism thrived and flourished was a deliberate choice; another attempt to quash any semblance of anti-Americanism in the Middle East; to begin the process of supplanting our nationalistic aspirations with “freedom and democracy” a la Americana. It wasn’t enough to plot and execute a sham Civil War that decimated the country; the prototype for urban warfare in the post-Vietnam era; the place from where all sorts of ammunitions were tested on us, an innocent population; in retrospect, it was, moreover, necessary to rub our noses in the scum that erupted! What a criminal blunder that was supported by corrupt Lebanese politicians who enriched themselves and their paid militias! Or, was it, surreptitiously, the start of redesigning the Middle East to fit in with the Neo-conservative and Israeli agendas? How despicable!

Hence, my otherwise absolutely delightful sojourn was marred that day by a gross “ethnic” American landmark planted furtively where it did not belong in any way!

Of course, McDonald’s and the entire gamut of the American enterprise system across the world has since spread itself grotesquely everywhere, allowing healthy diets to be supplanted by the lure of “ethnic” American razzmatazz kneaded with enough antibiotics, hormones, preservatives and calories to kill a horse!

When we first came to the US, about thirty-five years ago, the only “ethnic” (and it wasn’t even called ethnic then) was the shelf of Jewish stuff at my local grocery store: Matzos, Gefilte Fish, Borscht and such. Within a few years, and following our expanded wars, regime changes, coups and adventures across the globe, masses of immigrants began flocking to the US shores bringing with them their languages, cultures, religions, cuisines and all else. Soon enough, “ethnic” entered our lexicon and from there flowered all those caterers of sexy “ethnic” foods. However, it is not a fair exchange by any means! For, while all those brown and black immigrants bring their “ethnic” foods to the American Market (and most of those hole-in-the-wall ethnic restaurant owners serve recipes that would make their mothers and grandmothers have a stroke!) and to an American public that grew up on McDonald’s and all the other corporate plastic food so that that their palates have been deadened, the US exports its artificial food together with a long – long! – list of NAFTAS, GAFTAS, TPP, World Bank, IMF, United Nations, contrived Arab Springs and all those other “exports,” surrogate political organizations and trade agreements to a world that is mostly run by corrupt political leaders who sign on the dotted line that the American economic hit-men point to (and if they don’t they could, in all probability, be blackmailed, or get killed by some sort of a convenient “accident”), pick up their blood-money-checks and, thereby, screw the citizenry.

During the past ten years especially, in these United States, I have heard “ethnic” (food, clothes, music, culture etc. etc.) so, so often that I have come to cringe when I read, or hear that overused word! We relish the “ethnic” that has been brought to the United States, but bomb and annihilate everything “ethnic” over there everywhere! How sad that the American people enjoy our “ethnic” foods, but not our “ethnic” aspirations for Freedom and Justice; for Human, Civil and Legal Rights. It is so wicked and evil!

No, I did not need the Chilcot report to tell me that the invasion of Iraq was a criminal act. Many of us said that as soon as we had heard those first unnerving drumbeats of war. I do not need the analysis of those hypocritical talking heads and pundits who, in retrospect, are now saying that the objective was to remake the Middle East in the image designed by neo-colonialism. And, I do not need anyone to tell me that we are not at the end of the plot yet; that it will continue to ravish the Middle East for decades to come. I know that! Moreover, I do not need any apologies from the culprits, or any hypocritical promises, nor any other bullshit of this sort.

If only the US would cease and desist from exporting “ethnic” McDonald’s, fried cardboard chicken and pizza drizzled with fake, inedible cheese to replace the truly “ethnic,” healthy, traditional, authentic hommos, falafel and tabooleh etc. etc. (And, no, not the stolen Israeli-claimed versions! What thieves, usurpers and occupiers! Not enough that they stole our lands, but they have the chutzpah to be stealing our foods and everything else in order to prove to the world that those colonist European Jews belong to our Arab land, which they really and historically do not!) Quite deplorable!

Nevertheless – and I absolutely hate to say this as the US is home for me now – the Middle East Wars that we have designed and imposed will have their dreadful, petrifying and horrible ramifications here in this country, as well as in Europe and elsewhere. It is already happening. It is bound to intensify.

You see, we cannot tell Black People in the US that they have been emancipated and that they have attained their Civil Rights, but continue to enslave them, incarcerate them, and kill them without expecting that one day they will retaliate and demand real Justice. At that point, no barricades, no Tasers, no bullets, no policemen and no National Guard can stop that demand.

It is the same for the Arab people. We cannot continue to unleash Israel’s brutality on the Palestinians; start wars in the region; torture and uproot without engendering feelings of resentment, vengefulness, terrorism and hatred even from the most pacifist of Arab pacifists. Arabs, with their very long memories, will extract Justice also. And, at that point, no walls, no torture, no incarceration, no bullets, no bombs, no tanks, no soldiers will stop them. It is bound to happen someday, sometime!

When the French people stormed the Bastille on July 14, 1789 nothing stopped them. This is history – a history that, unfortunately, we have not learned due to our Arrogance and Ignorance, a Deadly Duo!

Is there any possibility of changing course? Righting the wrongs? Atoning? There is. There always is for the Wise and Responsible amongst us if Empire, Arrogance and Ignorance do not stand in the way.

It is solely and entirely our choice!