My daughter had been urging me for years to watch the television series: Grace and Frankie, with the terrific Jane Fonda as Grace, and the hilarious Lily Tomlin as Frankie. I ignored her suggestion – no time! – until the Virus invaded our Planet, held us prisoners in our own homes, and I was left with nothing much to do all day other than watch hours of television in between all the other stuff that I was doing and that kept me occupied, not bored and not depressed. And watch I did! All episodes! One afternoon after another of binging on this marvelous series! One hysterical episode remained in my mind haunting and amusing me day after day. It was when Grace sits on the toilet and then her legs weaken and she can’t pull herself up try as she might! After a futile struggle, she anxiously called Frankie, who was at her own place, in order to come over and assist her. It was a very funny scene! However, paranoia began seeping in and causing my blood pressure to madly vacillate! What if this happens to me? What if one day I can’t pull myself up from the toilet? I never take my phone with me – as Grace did – to the bathroom. What happens then?  After all, my legs are not as sprightly as they used to be and it just could happen! After months of freaking myself out over this I relayed my concerns to my daughter who suggested I keep her father’s sturdy four-legged walking cane (which I have held sentimentally onto after all these years and that was adorned with one of his favorite woolen hats) in the bathroom in case this happens at any time. I did as she suggested and I practiced holding onto the cane and pulling myself up. Needless to say, that did not work very well. Oh, dear! What to do? So daughter eventually finds a safety toilet assist contraption, orders it, my son-in-law installs it and Voila! No more paranoia and freaking out! I am toilet-safe!

Sometime after that and as I was fiddling with my computer settings, and being that I am technologically challenged, I must have done something or the other whereby I removed one of my essential computer features! Just like that! Erased! Gone! Poof! And, of course, for the life of me I could not remember what I had clicked on to cause this! Duh! “How many times have I told you not to mess with your settings?” Daughter says, exasperatedly! I nod my head, sheepishly! “You have to promise not to do this again! Okay?” I nod my head again, even more sheepishly!  It is not the first time, nor I presume, will it be the last one, in which I become the subject of a filial reprimand! How and When did that happen? It didn’t use to be this way back there when, did it? Right on the heels of this, our internet service conked out! No internet! No computer, no phone! At this point, I began feeling totally Fragmented and disheveled! When did my life become tied down to these gadgets in this embryonic way as if detaching from them is the end of my lifeline? Long story short, all was restored the next day! However, were it not for all these new technologies, would my children have given themselves license to think that I am the naughty Child and they the reasonable Adults? This Information Age that makes me dependent on them to guide and teach me? This world where they can look up anything and everything and where I am not the Major Go-To Reference anymore? Have I been replaced so easily by Google? I really need to have a chat about this with Sundar Pichai of Google! No wonder all of that makes me feel even more Fragmented! I am not the only one, though! Technology and this worldwide Virus have exposed a dangerously Fragmented world on so many levels!

That’s when I asked myself how, in the nineties, there was much blabber from politicians and media about how the world had become a village. What village? Where is that figment of our imagination? Everywhere I look it seems as if the fissures between people are widening, not narrowing, especially in these United States. This country is the youngest frontier compared to most of the world where our known civilizations have been thriving for about 5000 years: think China, India and the Middle East as examples. America is the rash, immature teenager of this world who was bestowed an untainted and rich virgin Paradise that had been religiously preserved by its Native American population and who in its zeal invented, produced and became richer and all the more powerful, but, in that process, trashed that pristine environment and ended up, at this point in time, with a dangerously Fragmented nation! How was this allowed to happen? And who, or what, is to blame? Technology? Social Media Platforms? White-Privileged, Corrupt, Selfish Cold-war remnants who make up the majority of our Political Leadership? Our Vaunted, Sensationalist, Divisive Media, who, in this Biden era, send their pathetically incompetent un-Jim Costa-like benchwarmers to the White House briefings and conferences? Runaway Unfettered Capitalism? Abundant Ignorance? We certainly cannot blame Trump for all this, although he was the catalyst that exposed it so blatantly. After all, it had been brewing for decades! We profess that we are a “Christian” nation, however, with all the different sects and interpretations of this “Christianity” we have ended up by being un-Christian in so many ways, and much more Fragmented!

Many Writers, Thinkers, Analysts, Historians and Journalists believe that this nation is in decline – a decline that we have brought upon ourselves by pursuing unjust and passé policies. Humility, Maturity, Peaceful Coexistence and Rapprochement are not – nor were they ever, it now seems – a basis for these policies. Biden, who has throughout his political career supported most of our wars, as well as meddling in other countries, and who is a corporatist, does not seem to be espousing any trajectory that is different from all the other previous Administrations except in the packaging, optics and style, although he might be able to enact some positive policies domestically as has been, thankfully, happening. Otherwise, it is the same old jingoism, militarism and rattling of sabers against those on the international front whom we have labelled as our Enemies! Known for his gaffes, Biden responded to an unnecessarily provocative question by Scott Pelley of 60 Minutes as to whether Putin was a “killer” by agreeing that he was. Really, Joe? And then our State Department’s Blinken, on his first meeting with Chinese Officials, lectured them on China’s behavior and royally pissed them off! Was that necessary? Really, Antony? I think that I need to send both him and Biden back to Diplomacy School! They were both being Arrogant, Confrontational, Divisive, Disrespectful, flaunting Outdated Colonist attitudes that only create more Enemies and invite further Trouble. Really, Joe!!! I must admit, though, that I am not disappointed as I expected this and had set a very low bar for this Administration. And, while I am certainly relieved that chaotic Trump lost his election bid – although he seems to have been right on some of his policies (and Biden is keeping those), especially accelerating vaccine production, nevertheless, it does make me wonder, if our historically haughty, hypocritical foreign policy is really what our Fragmented world needs at this serious and dangerous juncture where, among other matters, we choose to raise issues of human rights violations only when it comes to our enemies, but never when it comes to our allies? Pretty disconcerting when there are other alternatives!

2 thoughts on “Fragmented”

  1. Enjoyed your post. Technology has made us more dependent. I even have trouble with my TV remote. Wayne is able to take control from Virginia and fix it , but I hate to bother him— I do though.

    Politic- I love your insights. Hugs Norma On Mon, Mar 29, 2021 at 23:41 My Seventy Year Old Eyes wrote:

    > Hala Deeb Jabbour posted: ” My daughter had been urging me for years to > watch the television series: Grace and Frankie, with the terrific Jane > Fonda as Grace, and the hilarious Lily Tomlin as Frankie. I ignored her > suggestion – no time! – until the Virus invaded our Planet, held us” >


    1. Another thought provoking column, Ms. Hala. Thank you for being there. Yes, it bothers me greatly that the US feels justified in criticizing other countries human rights violations when we seem incapable of seeing and dealing with our own. Still, human rights violations must be confronted and thwarted wherever they are. If we a deficient in calling out ourselves and our allies, well, as citizens we have SOME recourse. We can contact legislators and support human rights orgs wherever and whenever we can. I place my hope in the coming generations, who seem to be oh so much more responsible than our own.

      PS. Grace and Frankie is heartbreaking and hilarious. One of those series that makes me laugh out loud.


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